Cutstuff Sanctuary

[ice]

I have Dissociative Identity disorder

[Geno]

I've discovered that one major flaw with my personality is that if I do anything wrong that upsets someone, whether they be sad or mad with me, I feel like crap for about a month afterwards.

Heck, even when people tell me that it isn't a major thing, I still feel terrible.
And even when I KNOW it is only a minor thing, I feel terrible.

In fact, I feel really terrible right now.
Not the way I would have liked to spend the final few hours of my long weekend, but whatever.

[LlamaHombre]

I still have that problem.
Just try your best to shrug it off and forget about it. More often than not it's trivial enough as to where you'll forget it in a couple of days.

[Ceridran]

That reminds me that I almost cannot do anything without playing it as if it's a first impression, screwing it up, and hating myself for making a bad image later.

[<geminibro>]

One time, a toaster made me jump before.

I'm not kidding.

[Rui]

That reminds me that I almost cannot do anything without playing it as if it's a first impression, screwing it up, and hating myself for making a bad image later.

One thing that I think works best is to be yourself! Do what you like and be who you'd like to be, don't change yourself or act as someone else to impress others, because I'm sure a lot of people would love and enjoy your company for being you!

You're pretty fun to be around, just remember that. : >

[-FiniteZero-]

So, I may as well say it.

I'm a coward.

When it comes to my fears (high places, bees, pain), I can't even come close to facing them.

[Kapus]

I wanna be a girl..

[Geno]

Me too...

[Rui]

Well, no one is stopping you! : )

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Knowing some of the terminology will certainly help out.

Cisgender (which is 90% of the world, as of now) vs. Transgender

What the buckets is nonbinary?

Assigned Sex =/= Gender Identity (Even then, the whole concept of biological sex isn't really a good one. It's a kinda long read.)

Sexual orientation is NOT the same thing as gender identity!

Also, on that note, sexual orientation isn't the same as romantic orientation. (Yes, this also applies to YOU, dear cis person reading this. Even if not, I'd still recommend checking it out)

Don't listen to those who try to invalidate your identity or experiences! Explore and see what makes you happy!

It's all honestly a matter of finding yourself and seeing what makes you feel most comfortable. Trust me, figuring it out will make life much easier and you'll end up feeling more happy with yourself.

I'd type more but typing with an iPhone is exhausting. If you have any questions, there's always google!

Just posting the facts.  

[Kapus]

(I'm aware of all that, I'm just being honest with the world for once :> )

[Hallan Parva]

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to be quite honest

whenever I see the words "cisgender" or "pansexual" or anything like that fly around I instinctively break out into hives, throw up my defensive force field barrier, and immediately ignore that person for the rest of the day while slowly backpedaling away from them

I guess it's the tumblrbumblrtards' fault mainly but in my opinion you can say "hey I consider myself to be a female" and not have to break out dictionary.com to make your point, much less attack others for not immediately realizing what your viewpoint and opinion even means to begin with


to quote the great Zano
"nah man fuck off"




I apologize if I'm being an asshole here
but at the same time no not really I'm being serious here

[Kapus]

in my opinion you can say "hey I consider myself to be a female" and not have to break out dictionary.com to make your point,

You can. Bringing out word definitions can help for some people though, as they might not fully understand everything immediately (not everyone looks into this sort of stuff very much, a lot of words and definitions aren't widely recognized). Sort of as a "just in case" type of thing. It's good to expand your vocabulary anyway! I don't think anyone's using big words just for the sake of it.

 

much less attack others for not immediately realizing what your viewpoint and opinion even means to begin with

I don't ever see this happening anywhere ever.

I guess because I don't use tumblr, whoops.

[*Alice]

in my opinion you can say "hey I consider myself to be a female" and not have to break out dictionary.com to make your point,

You can. Bringing out word definitions can help for some people though, as they might not fully understand everything immediately (not everyone looks into this sort of stuff very much, a lot of words and definitions aren't widely recognized). Sort of as a "just in case" type of thing. It's good to expand your vocabulary anyway! I don't think anyone's using big words just for the sake of it.

 

much less attack others for not immediately realizing what your viewpoint and opinion even means to begin with

I don't ever see this happening anywhere ever.

I guess because I don't use tumblr, whoops.

I have to say, I can understand the way sb+b feels. Many of the terms get used inside contexts that are hostile against cis persons. Spend a week on tumblr and other parts of the internet with a high amount of opinion-based content and you'll see what I mean.

But then, I'm someone who judges romantic loveability on mostly personality and a lot less on gender or sexuality (I wouldn't call myself fully pan-romantic, though). And yes, that does not match exactly with my sexual orientation.

So maybe I just don't care enough about genders and sexes to really care about all those terms. Cisgirls and Transgirls are the same for me in all relevant ways.

[Kapus]

I have to say, I can understand the way sb+b feels. Many of the terms get used inside contexts that are hostile against cis persons. Spend a week on tumblr and other parts of the internet with a high amount of opinion-based content and you'll see what I mean.

After hearing some stories from friends, I will fully take your word for this. Some people are just really insensitive and narrow minded, I guess. I know for sure it can be like that on both sides, but it's still rather sad because I hate to see the general populace of such people get a bad rep. There are plenty of good ones out there.

(always remember that the more obnoxious people are always the louder ones)

But then, I'm someone who judges romantic loveability on mostly personality and a lot less on gender or sexuality (I wouldn't call myself fully pan-romantic, though). And yes, that one does not match exactly with my sexual orientation.

So maybe I just don't care enough about genders and sexes to really care about all those terms. Cisgirls and Transgirls are the same for me in all relevant ways.

Me too, though! It's what's inside that counts.