Cutstuff Sanctuary

[Emmanuelf06]

Don't force you to be so much social if you are not like that ^^
For me, you are cool yet ...and relax man!
Maybe you need more activities with people, actually? I dont know o:

[Kapus]

While it may not take effort for someone else to get into a conversation, I always have to think about what I want to say before I can chat.

I'm like that all the time. Does this make you anxious around people or something? Either way, I don't think that's a sign of being very asocial. I think that just means you're more introverted than most, and are perhaps a bit of a thinker.

[Hilman170499]

Hello there Cutstuff. Tall, dark and wacky here again with more news:
Warning: Open at your own risk.

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The reason I'm here today is to be a help. Troubled people keep rolling in here, admitting they have a problem. Unfortunately, I never came around to help them when in reality, I'd be happy to comfort someone.~

So I'm announcing that it's what I'll do!~ If you need help, ranging from loneliness or even a quarrel, I'll be around if you need to talk to someone.

Don't be shy people, just consult Mr. Hil.~(Okay, that last one sounded silly, but still, I'm your go-to guy for a conversation...)

BLUE FOR DAYS!!!

[Kage]

Don't force you to be so much social if you are not like that ^^
For me, you are cool yet ...and relax man!
Maybe you need more activities with people, actually? I dont know o:

Thankz Stone! I suppose it would probably help if I do more activities with people.

I'm like that all the time. Does this make you anxious around people or something? Either way, I don't think that's a sign of being very asocial. I think that just means you're more introverted than most, and are perhaps a bit of a thinker.

Depending on the scenario, I could feel anxious around people. Usually it is either there are too many people trying to talk to me or someone not responding when I do want to talk to them. I've always known that I am an introvert,  and that does hinder me from time to time. I don't mind talking to people at all. However,  I just feel that I'm bad at starting conversations though as well as maintain constant communication with any individual. Even now, I'm still not very enticed to get on Skype.

[SmashTheEchidna]

I just feel that I'm bad at starting conversations though as well as maintain constant communication with any individual.

I have been like that for as long as I can remember. I even actively avoided chats for a while, partially for this reason.
Generally hanging around and making new friends has helped me open up a bit better, but I'm still rather quiet in person.

[Smunch]

I don't think I really have anything to contribute here; I just read through this topic on Christmas and its probably the fluffiest thing I'll do all day, reading about people's troubles and people trying to help.  Warms the heart and all that jazz.

I've got some respect for all y'all.  Mad props to people I never really knew much personally about, like Kapus, Turbo, ice, Kage, Ceridran, Geno, Rui, and plenty more I can't list immediately without a list right in front of me.  Good on you.  Maybe I should chill around with you folks more often instead of lurking.

Merry Christmas all.

[Turbodude]

I tend to feel really ostracized whenever I'm in a skype call.

It seems like I have to literally yell just to get myself heard and I feel bad when I do, cause I don't wanna hog attention, rather just be a part of the conversation..

It's probably just me being antisocial or somethin'.

[SmashTheEchidna]

Is it because there's too many people talking at once, or can they just not hear you?

[Rui]

I tend to feel really ostracized whenever I'm in a skype call.

It seems like I have to literally yell just to get myself heard and I feel bad when I do, cause I don't wanna hog attention, rather just be a part of the conversation..

It's probably just me being antisocial or somethin'.

I honestly prefer smaller calls than the more bigger ones like in Tengu Chat or Freeman Chat.

Like, I have a lot of fun in those calls!!! Though smaller ones feel more easy to talk in.

[Red]

i can't even get in calls because i'm way way WAAY too insecure about my english

[Gumballtoid]

I honestly prefer smaller calls than the more bigger ones like in Tengu Chat or Freeman Chat.

I find it amusing that the Tengu chat has grown so substantially since its beginnings in early 2012. It grew from a humble chat of 6 to a fairly active chat of 40. Calls in that chat used to average around 3 or 4 people, and now it's usually upwards of 11. Even so, we manage to have quiet, 5-person calls late at night, and on occasion, some pretty personal conversations.

I wasn't overly comfortable with a lot of the community back then. That was largely due to (I will concede) the way I conducted myself, but I failed to get that under control, and as a result, tended to feel isolated, without anyone to truly associate with. Now, I know everyone a lot better, and I feel as though I've found my niche in the community, and seeing just how much I've changed has impressed me. The steady growth of what I consider my "main chat" reflects that quite nicely.

I dunno, it was brought up and I felt like I needed to put that out there. Sometimes it helps to take a good look at yourself. In that way, I've learned to walk with a bit more of a backbone and not let my insecurities prevent me from functioning.

[Nostalgia]

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I need a clique or a squad or something. I don't fit in anywhere, as in I don't feel like I can openly express myself and be at ease anywhere except in private. I mean, it may be just part of who I am but I'm seriously starting to doubt that since I've felt this for like years now, not just online but in life in general.

[Red]

i feel very awkward in social situations, sometimes just a random person talking to me is enough to make me sweat a bit
thing is, sometimes i get TOO anxious and i have a hard time controlling it, it's even gotten as bad as to get panic attacks in public, which leaves me feeling like shit and most of the time unable to move or think rationally for like half an hour

i've been trying to get better though, but it feels like it's such an impossible thing

[Kapus]

Hm, social anxiety. That's a really tough issue to tackle and I'm honestly not sure what kind of advice I could offer for it. I often feel uncomfortable in social situations (though a lot of that has to do with my gender identity), but it's definitely not severe and I wouldn't call it anxiety.

At the very least, don't feel bad for suffering from it! It's an issue that a lot of people have and it can be hard to overcome or even cope with it.

[Geno]

Yeah, I feel uncomfortable in those situations as well (most likely cuz of same reason as Kappy), but don't feel bad!

Even if you have social anxiety, that doesn't stop you from being a good person! Just, try to do your best!